Sacred Trust
Trust is sacred. It is essential to a good marriage. It takes time to earn, but is easily lost, then takes even longer to earn back. The Proverbs 31 woman understands how important it is to BUILD TRUST with her husband. Let’s take a look at Proverbs 31: 11-12 King James Version:
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
This passage does not say, “her husband trusts in her.” It says, “The HEART of her husband trusts in her.” Interesting. I think this is emphasizing that as wives, we need to give our husband’s hearts a SAFE PLACE, a place of trust with us. How can we do that?
Proverbs 14:1 New American Standard Bible “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” How does a wise woman BUILD her house? One way is with HER WORDS. When we are with our husbands, our words can either encourage and build them up, or discourage and tear them down. When we tear our husbands down with our words, we are tearing down our own house.
Also, have you noticed that some women like to criticize their husbands in front of others? It’s called husband bashing. If this gets back to the husband, how will his heart trust her? There will be no SAFE PLACE for his heart. I don’t participate in this. Is my husband perfect? No, but when I am chatting with friends about my husband, I am very careful to BUILD HIM UP and to speak of his good character. He knows that I do this and it makes him feel SAFE with me; he can TRUST me. He does the same for me.
So how would a husband have “no need of spoil”. Spoil is taking the enemies’ goods in time of war. This is talking about FINANCIAL TRUST. Her husband knows that his wife is not going to Walmart buying clothes instead of groceries. Due to her wise stewardship, they have plenty and her husband does not feel the need for spoil.
And why would a woman do evil to her husband? I think the wording is interesting here. Let’s be honest, when we have been in a heated argument with our husband, has the thought crossed our minds of doing a little “evil” to him? God knows us SO well! The difference with the Proverbs 31 woman, is that she doesn’t do it, because she prays and asks God to give her the FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT- His patience, love, and gentleness- instead.
It is worth noting that the first characteristic mentioned about the Proverbs 31 woman is her good relationship with her husband. He can TRUST in her; she is FOR him; she does him GOOD. The marriage is the foundation of the family. BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE and you are building your house, your family. Are you building a safe place for your husband’s heart? Are you building your house? Let’s ask God today to help us build our marriage, our family, our house.
In His love,
Suzanne
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